Last post (Get ‘er Done) I mentioned that good friends were moving to Texas and well within the 5.4/9 vibration of this month (5-2011). Thanks to 1800 miles of driving, they are now here in Austin. I had the pleasure of participating in that road trip and got to experience a few new states along the way.
As one might expect, once we crossed into Texas, the reality of the move started to settle in with my friends. The extreme weather had us focused on the drive itself, but every so often, one would mumble half under his breath, “I hope we’re doing the right thing.”
How often in life are we faced with decisions like this? And how often do we ask ourselves this same question?
“I hope I’m doing the right thing.”
It is clear at times like this that we see life as duality. We see a fork ahead of us and question which branch is the right choice. The implication is that the other one is the wrong choice. Our society and culture enforces this dualistic thinking. So often, we’re set up to choose between two things – just like within our presidential elections. Even our food choices become dualistic. “This is good for you; that is bad for you.”
So what would life be like if we lived in triality instead of duality?
When I first thought of this yesterday, I didn’t even think triality was a word, but then I looked it up and found that it is. It is a mathematical term. The basic idea is to think in terms of threes rather than twos, for example: good, bad, and neutral.
When we start thinking within triality, we no longer assume that everything is either good or bad. We recognize the third choice. In fact, if you look back on your life, you’ll probably notice that the majority of what exists in the world is of the third (neutral) – if you allow it to be. So much that is happening out there has no positive or negative affect on our own personal lives. That’s because most of it is not happening to us.
And yet, even within those decisions that most affect our lives, they needn’t be viewed as simply black or white, good or bad, success or failure. In fact, it is impossible to know for sure whether we made the right decision because we can’t ever know for sure what the other path would be like. If we make a decision and then have a bad time, we might assume we made the wrong choice, but do we know this for a fact? Isn’t it possible that the other choice could have been worse?
Life taught me something at an early age. After high school, I went to a small college in Western Massachusetts. In my first semester, I realized that I made the wrong choice and immediately starting looking for and applying to other schools. I made a leap and applied to a school in California and was accepted as a junior transfer. In retrospect, I realize that I never would have gone to a California school straight out of high school. So in a way, I had to make the wrong decision first in order to then make a new one to end up there.
And in looking back, I wouldn’t have wanted it any other way. The experience of my first two years was vastly different than the last three (what it took for me to finish), but together, they were complete. They each taught me different things.
So from that point on, I always remembered that sometimes the path less direct is the better path. And yet, even as I say that, I am still thinking dualistically.
Abraham’s words on this subject are some of the best I’ve ever heard. They say that there are no big decisions. That is because no matter what path you take, you are always there. And if you are the creator of your reality, then you’ll be creating regardless. So you have the ability and opportunity to create what you want either way!
And it occurs to me that one way to start creating with a bit more ease is to stop thinking dualistically, and start thinking trialistically. In duality, we have so much pressure on us to make the right decision. In triality, we can make lateral moves all the time, ones that are neither good nor bad in and of themselves.
From triality, we get trialistic, and then trial. In science, when you have no information about which choice to make, you resort to what’s called trial and error. You try one option and see how it goes, knowing you always have the opportunity to make new choices if things are not going as well as you like. In the process, you learn about yourself, which increases your awareness, and then gives you a greater opportunity to choose better the next time. That sounds much better than having to make the right choice right off the bat.
Abraham always says it’s not the choice, but how well you line up with it that matters most. However, in reality, we do make good choices and bad ones – or at least it feels that way. We’ve done things and paid dearly, done other things and been rewarded. But there’s always the higher perspective, and if you see only good and bad, you haven’t gone high enough.
Choose because you have no choice but to choose. Even if you stall, you’re making a choice. Trust that you’ll get something you need either way, and once you choose, always make the best of it, which is just another way of saying line up with the path you’ve chosen.
Hold your head up high because spirit walks along side of you and sees your journey from the highest perspective. They know why you’re really here and who you really are. And they want you to know that there is no Judgement Day. There is just cause and effect and abundant opportunities to learn and create.
Walk in peace…